Gaining the knowledge, skills and tools to help boost your self-esteem

Everyone loses confidence in themselves now and then. Recognising this, is the first step in regaining self-confidence. Lack of self-confidence for a prolonged period of time can make a person vulnerable to Depression and Anxiety. Whether it’s at work or at home, everyone can benefit from feeling good about themselves and their abilities.

Self-esteem is the degree to which we feel confident, consider ourselves valuable, and respect ourselves. It requires that we hold a favourable appreciation or opinion of ourselves, even during periods when others are not meeting our essential emotional needs. Self-esteem is based on the thoughts and feelings we have about ourselves. High self-esteem is reflected by positive and accurate thoughts such as “I am capable, valuable, interesting” etc. These thoughts can help you feel effective, capable, and loveable.

Low self-esteem is reflected by negative thoughts such as “I am ugly, stupid, boring” etc. These thoughts can make you feel worthless, unlovable, and incompetent. People with high self-esteem accept and like themselves. When our perception of ourselves is negative it can lead to an overwhelming feeling of low self-worth; “I’m not good enough”; “not interesting enough”; and/or “I am not attractive enough.”

Low self-esteem can hold you back from doing the things you want to do, achieve your full potential or even just saying the things you want to say. In fact lack of confidence can make daily life interactions really difficult and even torturous for some people. Counselling can help you explore how your low self-confidence may have evolved in the immediate or long distance past.

Your psychologist or counsellor can provided you with the knowledge, skills and tools to equip you to increase and maintain an accurate self-perception and self-confidence. People with low self-esteem may work with therapists on becoming more assertive, confident, and self-aware. Finding a sense of accomplishment is a huge boost to self-esteem. Therapy can help people identify specific activities that boost confidence and competence. In addition, our psychologists and counsellors focus on helping people develop self-compassion so that they can develop more realistic, achievable goals for themselves and treat themselves with the same kindness and encouragement they would offer others.